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Have You Got the Time?

March 4, 2014

Since I’ve stopped working, I’ve sometimes felt like I have time on my hands.  I’m not sure that I’ve been using it as wisely as I could be, but one of the reasons why I felt like it was time to come home for good was that I was getting glimpses of inspiration while I was at work and by the time I got home, it would be gone.  I had no energy to pursue creativity.

I resigned in November, and then the holidays came, so I didn’t feel like I could really find a new normal until late January or February.  I’m falling into something of a normal pattern now.  It involves some outside activities like my Ladies’ study one morning a week, a piano lesson for a new homeschooler, and my weekly shopping.  I also usually visit my Mom and younger brothers at least once a week.  And then I have a bunch of projects going at home.

Beside the furniture and painting plans we’ve been making and the various household items that I’ve been working on picking up during my shopping excursions, I’m also working on a few craft projects.  I think I posted once about all my hobbies/crafts.  Right now, I have two crochet projects, three painting projects, and one cross stitch project all going at once, plus two or three other painting projects and a crochet project or two in the wings/early planning stages.

And now that I’m at home, when inspiration strikes, I pick up my guitar and work on a song.  I’m just beginning to see the fruit of the decision Sir K and I made last fall that I needed to come home.  I have the time and the freedom to write the melody that is singing inside of me.  And that wants to be shared.  I have the time and energy to practice my playing and singing, to become better able to share all God’s songs with people.

These days I sometimes feel like I have time on my hands, but I can usually find something constructive to fill it.  And I finally have time to focus on the things that God has called me to do.  One is to create a welcoming home for my husband, future children, and friends.  Another is to share the music He has put in my heart.  I am a vessel through which He wants to sing the songs of His heart, and I just pray that I can keep getting out of His way.  My songs may only ever touch my small circle, my church family, but God knows and will send me the songs He wants them to hear.  If he wants a song heard by the nation, he sends it to someone on the national scene.

Do you have time in your schedule for the things God is doing in and through you?  So many people these days, especially women, are so busy at work that they have little time for the basics at home, let alone hobbies.  Between work and their social life they are emotionally drained, leaving less and less for family and self.  Or their work and family take up all their time and they have little left for socializing or for God. I’m not trying to say that everyone should give up working, but that you should give some serious thought to this question.

What is your calling, and are you spending time on it?

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Coming Home

November 22, 2013

As I mentioned in a recent post, I have come home.

I’ve always known that I wanted to be a housewife, but I never realized how strong the desire would be once I had a house and husband to take care of.

Many little girls start out wanting to be “just like Mommy” when they grow up.  I was one of them.  As a little girl, I would try to imitate my mother as she cared for my younger siblings, Mom with the baby, me with my doll.  I’ve never lost the desire to one day become what my mother is, homemaker and homeschooling mom.  Now, I’ve taken the first step and become a homemaker.

I love being at home.  The relaxed pace suits me, and I’m much more of a homebody than a social butterfly, so I’m not sorry not to be dealing with people all the time.  Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed my job and it was a wonderful two years, but the stress of working 40 hours and then trying to come home and get anything done was more than I wanted to continue.

I don’t really know how some women do it, and then add kids, activities, and such.  In any case, my tendency to do the next thing with all my energy meant that I was spending all my energy at work, and had none left to do chores many nights, let alone work on the redecorating plans Sir K and I have been talking about.  And that increasingly did not feel as if my focus was in the right place.

As a wife, my focus felt like it should be on my husband and future children, making a pleasant home haven for them.  And while I was spending the best 8 hours of my day outside the home, I didn’t seem to be able to do that.  Sir K might not have been complaining yet, but he is completely supportive of my desire to be a stay at home wife.   And two weeks in, I’m loving the change.

I’m no model housekeeper with pristine house and cookies baking, but that’s not my goal. My goal is to create a warm, inviting atmosphere for my husband and later my children.  And to make a place where Christ is welcome.  When I think about it, that’s really the most important thing in a home to me.  That Christ be welcomed in and asked to stay.  Whether in a home or a heart.

Because then it can truly feel like heaven.

Singlehood

April 11, 2011

Putting Aside the Distractions

Ever feel like people just have no concept of the kind of person you are? Okay, good. Then you’ll understand some of my feelings when people ask me if I have a boyfriend, if so-and-so and I are dating, or some such question. I’m sure the inquiries seem natural to them; most girls of 22 have already dated at least one if not more guys for some length of time. So when these well-meaning interlocutors want to be polite and ask me about something going on in my life, they often ask those (to me who rarely fits into the “most girls” category) annoying questions.

So, now, why are those questions so annoying to me?  Well, put it this way.  If you were trying to focus on preparing for a test or a race or something else which is very important to you, and your friends kept asking you to hang out, to talk for hours on the phone, to play video games, or something else equally trivial (in comparison — I’m not trying to say any of these are in and of themselves bad things, just that they can be distractions), how would you feel?

True friends are those who come alongside and help you study, help you train, help you watch what you eat, role play an interview, tell you about what worked or didn’t work for them in a similar situation so that you can benefit from their mistakes and successes.  The other friends are, wittingly or unwittingly, distracting you from your mission.

That’s how it feels when people ask me about boyfriends.

Marriage is still in the hazy future for me.  I’m doing my best not to dwell on it because if I let myself become distracted by the daydreams and castles in the air, I lose my focus on what’s important for me right now.  Sure, someday I know that I will be married.  Someday when God says it’s time!  Until then, my focus is on Jesus and the work he has for me in my singlehood.

What is that work?  Well, there are two aspects of it I’m working on right now.  Firstly, you may remember that I’m finishing up a degree in Human Services.  I’ll be graduating soon (classes are done the end of April, but I won’t walk until June), and looking for full-time employment.  God is already moving on that front, but that’s material for another post.  Let me say here that my desire in a job is to help other people, especially to help them see Jesus.  A secondary benefit will hopefully be an ever-growing bank account with which to bless the start of aforementioned marriage.  The longer I wait for God’s Chosen Man for Me, the bigger that savings will be!  Also, I will gain some perspective on the working world which will give me the background to empathize better with those I meet for the rest of my life, and with my husband.

Another aspect is homemaker training.  Although I know of girls who get married knowing essentially zilch about housewifery, I am determined not to be one of them.  I’ll admit to not being as avid a learner in this area as I should be, based on the usefulness of the knowledge to my future.  I can, however, cook several meals independently and have done so on many occasions.  I have done pretty much all the different cleaning tasks around the house at one time or another, although with anywhere from two to six pairs of hands we are usually able to spread the spring cleaning around!  The budgeting aspect I have studied (in my high school life-prep course), and I’m looking forward to putting it to use as I have significant income and expenses with which to work.

I’m also picking up many techniques, pieces of wisdom, etc. about homeschooling.  While I’m not directly involved with my siblings’ schooling right now, I am aware of the planning going on (our homeschool convention isn’t for another month, but it’s time to start thinking about next year’s curriculum in preparation).  I also love to listen in when my mother has conversations about with other mothers about homeschooling.  That’s one of the reasons I love to go with her to the homeschool convention, so I can learn all I can about the teaching side of homeschooling in preparation for the day when I will be the mother instead of the student.  Sure, having been homeschooled probably gives me a head start, and having my particular mother for a teacher probably gives me a bigger head start than most, but I expect to make my fair share of mistakes anyway, and I’m just hoping not to duplicate those that others around me have made.  I can think up enough of my own, thank you!!!

In all this, from work to wifery to homeschooling, my focus right now is on Christ.  I want to know what His plans are, what he wants to teach me.  These things are merely the out working of what He has shown me is His will for me right now.  The true focus is on Him and Him alone.

Now you see why my friends (and extended family members) who ask about boyfriends get short shrift from me.  All I know and care to know about my future husband is that God has chosen him for me, and that He will bring us together in His perfect time.  Distracting questions and comments are not appreciated, though I try to remain pleasant and laugh it off.

Some people just don’t understand my concept of singlehood.

Laura, over at Echoes in the Wind, has some pretty good posts about Waiting and about the Pressure to be Attached (among other articles).  I’m encouraged to see these and her other posts about being a Stay-At-Home-Daughter because I don’t see these attitudes very often, even among the homeschooled and/or Christian girls I know.  While I’m at it, here’s a link to Latitude 821’s Dating & Courtship posts, most of which I have also read and enjoyed, and which cover the topic from both the girl’s and the guy’s perspective.

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